A Commentary on the Increasing Acceptance of Infidelity in Pop Culture
If you’ve turned on the radio at any point in the past two weeks you’ve probably heard Andy Grammer’s new song “Honey, I’m good,” which at first listen seems like just a catchy song. I admit that the first few times I heard it I didn’t really listen to the lyrics, but when I actually started paying attention to what grammer was crooning about I was enraged.
It’s no secret that infidelity has become a hot topic in pop culture nowadays. It seems like every day a new celebrity is caught up in a cheating scandal or yet another pop star has released a song about being cheated on. Billboard.com’s The Top 100 has several songs that reference cheating, including Meghan Trainor’s “Lips Are Movin” and Sam Smith’s “I’m Not the Only One.” It’s appalling to me that cheating has become so ingrained in our culture that we just accept it and ignore it.
Cheating is Never Okay
Despite what Andy Grammer sings about how “if [he] stays [he] might not leave alone” and how “better men than [him] have failed drinking from that unholy grail,” cheating is never excusable. Drinking is not an excuse for cheating. Neither is being unable to have a strong conscience. If you think that drinking or being around a certain person is going to cause you to cheat on your significant other, you should outright avoid these things.
Someone That Actually Loves You Wouldn’t Cheat On You
A big part of relationships is trust, something that once it’s been broken is hard to get back. If your partner actually loves you they won’t cheat on you because they know that it would break your trust and your heart. Someone that loves you would consider your feelings along with theirs and wouldn’t hurt you just for a one-off. Even though in his song Andy Grammer claims that "[he's] got somebody at home" who has "all of [his] love" it’s clear that he doesn't actually care about her. If he did he wouldn't be flirting with another girl to the point where she thinks he might go home with her. That goes way past flirting and into cheating territory.
Cheating is not an “accident"
One of the things that makes me the angriest about cheating is when people claim that it was an “accident.” You alone have control of your body, no one forced you to cheat. You don't accidentally fall into someone's genitals. Actions are a result of conscious decisions and you made the conscious decision to cheat.
We need to stop turning a blind eye to cheating in pop culture. It is never okay to cheat under any circumstances. Don't let anyone try to excuse cheating because there are no excuses. And no matter how much Andy Grammer and other pop stars try to make infidelity seem common, just know that you deserve better. If someone cheats on you don’t go back; once a cheater always a cheater.